Wednesday, September 7, 2016
BEST.DAY.EVER.
Monday, December 7, 2015
Can't Get You Off My Mind
In the last couple of months of waiting our girl turned TWO! We had friends there during her birthday and we were told she was very well celebrated. We made rice and beans just like the typical meal of Haiti and decorated and just celebrated her as best as we could. Those days are the hardest. The birthdays. The holidays. You just don't want to spend yet another day 3,000 miles from your child. It just doesn't feel good.
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| Her birthday gifts |
But, we know that some day this will be a distant memory. And we really are thankful for these painful days. Because it reminds us how much we truly love her. She isn't growing in my belly the way the other two did, but you can bet that our love is growing SO deeply during this time. As a family we are learning to just cling to one another and pray continually for our baby who is so far away.
I'm finding that instead of burying myself in tasks I need to take a step back and be okay with not doing much of anything. I am having to say no to a lot. Some days are better and some days I am just so overwhelmed. And I am going to admit openly that I was letting fear keep me frozen. The fear kept me from feeling the real pain of having my baby so far away. It kept me from being honest about how scared I was about meeting her because then I would KNOW what she feels like and then I have to leave her. That hurts so much.
I was recently blessed with the opportunity to attend the Called to Love retreat. It is for adoptive/foster mama's. I didn't want to go at first because I didn't want to be vulnerable to my emotions. I wanted to bury them deep. Going there was where I finally allowed myself to admit that I was allowing fear to keep me from feeling. So, it was there that I let it go. I asked God to take it away. And He did. And I hurt. And I cried. But, it has been SO good. He also gave me the greatest gift of getting to hug two amazing women, who are also Haiti mama's, during the conference. One of those sweet mama's brought home two kids from the same orphanage that our daughter is living at. She has SEEN our girl. Those two days were a true treasure. Memories that will be with me for life.
So, for now, we just wait for "the call." We know that the families that were ahead of us got their call and will be heading to meet their little ones SO SOON. So, we remain hopeful that our call is coming. We have been working so hard to raise the rest of the money to bring her home. I've seen God work miracles for our family so many times. He took us from not having a penny to our name to being blessed with more jobs than we can handle (literally. Josh has 4 of them to try to make as much money as we can to get our girl home). We are HALFWAY to fully funded. God just keeps bringing in the money. Many people ask what our next need is, and that is the money for the referral/travel. We have $2,000 more to go. Although some days I start to fret over that money, I truly do believe God will provide it just at the right time. There are times I wish we were already fully funded so we didn't have to worry about it, but maybe this is a gift. It gives us something to focus on in our wait. It makes us rely solely on Him. It requires us to humble ourselves and ask for help.
So, for those that were asking about a way to give that would be tax deductible, we went ahead and set up a Pure Charity fundraiser page. All the money that is donated through that link goes directly to our agency, who will then use the money for our adoption expenses. Each dollar counts. Truly. And we are so thankful to all of the people who have prayed for us. Who have set up fundraisers for us. Who have purchased from our fundraisers. Who have handed us a check just because. We are truly thankful for our village. If you would like to donate, just look to the right of the blog and you'll see our fundraising page...just click on it! THANK YOU!!
Tuesday, November 24, 2015
Think of the Happiest Things {Fundraiser}
The words, "think of the happiest things," are lyrics from Peter Pan. I haven't stopped singing the song since designing it! In our home, when we are stressed or scared, we always say to pray and think of happy things. Plus, we are a bit Disney obsessed in our home, so designing something that encompasses that love just made sense. We know our girl is going to be dealing with a lot of grief as she transitions into our home, so we love to think of ways to fill our home with reminders of JOY amidst the sadness. We hope you love the reminder to think of happy things!
So, in light of Christmas coming up...we thought it would be fun to design t-shirts that would make perfect gifts (or just buy for yourself...I won't tell). Our shirts are available for purchase from now until Monday, November 30th. Once it ends, shirts will arrive within 14 days which gives you the perfect amount of time to wrap them and place them under the tree. We have unisex, ladies, youth, long-sleeve, and hooded sweatshirts available! Every single purchase gets us so much closer to our baby girl. We would LOVE if you would also share about our fundraiser...the more we sell the closer we get to our goal! Thank you all from the bottom of our hearts. Our family is so grateful for all of the love and support we have received during this process!
Thursday, August 27, 2015
I've Waited Three Months to Announce This....
Okay, here we go.
Remember when I posted about the two big boys that we had pursued so hard for 6 months and how even though the Lord made it clear we needed to let go that He also had something amazing planned for us?
I mean, AMAZING.
Well, I will let this picture speak for us....
There is SO much more we want to say. SO VERY MUCH MORE. But, for now we still have to stay pretty quiet about the details. Basically, our agency and our baby girl's orphanage have pre-matched us to her. That means that they are recommending to the Haitian government that our family is a good fit for her. And we just pray every day that they will agree. So, when we announced that on August 18, 2015 our dossier entered IBESR (Haitian social services) we were rejoicing and crying for an even bigger reason. Because that was one HUGE step closer to our baby girl.
And you know how awesome God is? She is at the very orphanage that brought us to our beloved agency, Lifeline Children's Services. She is living at Three Angels and we couldn't ask for a better place for her to be while we wait to be able to have her in our arms. Oh what a glorious day that will be!
I know many of you are wondering what happened to wanting TWO kids. Well, we have truly felt that God has asked us to be open to 1 OR 2 children and to special needs. We didn't want to put limitations on our adoption. We truly believed that God would lead us to our child(ren) no matter what we said on paper. We are so happy with the child we believe He has planned for our family and due to the significant needs of our little one we believe He planned this perfectly. And our whole family is ready for MANY more to join our tribe in His timing. And you want to hear one neat little detail? We have always felt that twins would be in our family at some point. We really thought we would have twins in this adoption. Well, our girl's birthday is almost exactly 6 months before Israel's. Many call this "irish twins." It was always twins, just not the way we expected! He is in every detail.
So, for now, since we can't share details of our BEAUTIFUL girl, which includes her name, we will be calling her Selah. If you have been following our journey you know we use the hashtag #journeytosandj on our posts. And awhile back I explained why we referenced our future children as Judah and Selah. Our sweet Selah girl has been prayed for for so many years.
And the news gets even sweeter. We got an update that paperwork is FLYING through the process which makes us hopeful that we may be receiving our referral (that will be Haiti's invitation for us to come spend 2 weeks bonding with our girl) much sooner than expected. The "average" timeline (we use timelines very loosely in international adoptions) is 6-12 months for a referral, so we are PRAYING to be on the earlier side of that. No matter what we truly believe it will be in HIS timing. Because He is good. Even when we don't understand.
So, that is what I have been holding onto since May 12th. You guys, we are going to have a DAUGHTER!!
Never once did you leave us. You are faithful.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
One Year.
Speaking of orphan care, I wanted to share a little bit about what has been laid on our hearts. We knew when we started our adoption that we didn't want to take away someone's child. That's hard to understand here in the U.S., but in international adoption, especially in third world countries, there are so many children that aren't true orphans. Meaning, they have living family that WANT them, but they are just unable to care for them so they do what they feel is best and bring them to an orphanage where they know they will be fed and sheltered. I love that orphanages can provide a safe place for families, but I don't love that many people feel that this means the children need homes. Because they don't. They have a home. We have become so passionate about finding programs and organizations that work to reunify families. They teach the parents skills so that they can find jobs and then are able to care for their own families. Anyway, all this to say, we are just so thankful for our agency and how they have walked with us each step of the way this past year. Through lots of excitement, but an awful lot of tears.
So, here we are. One year later. Do you want to hear our exciting update???
And then we turned around and shipped it off to immigration!
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| Home Study!!! |
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| Paperwork sent to immigration with these two |
We have had all of our paperwork ready to go, we just couldn't move forward AT ALL until we had our Home Study. You can imagine the celebrating that followed when it arrived. With it, we were able to apply for immigration and can now go get our paperwork authenticated and sent with our dossier. And we can also begin to apply for grants!
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| "Ice cream" to celebrate |
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| Haitian inspired red beans and rice for our celebration dinner |
I wish there was an expression to show just how over the moon excited we are right now. We have gone through so much heartache and setbacks and things are finally moving at rapid pace and we are so thankful for that. My heart is soaring!
As far as fundraising, another PRAISE THE LORD, we raised enough to send our dossier right on time! We started off needing SO much and then the Lord provided all of it.
I will update again soon!
Thursday, June 18, 2015
FUNDRAISER: Garage Sale!
FUNDRAISER: The Apparent Project
So, where do we fit in? The Apparent Project has a double cause fundraiser option where you can sell their bracelets to raise funds for your cause and in turn you are also helping to pay the artisans. This is amazing!
Here's the thing. We know we were called to adopt. But, our biggest prayer is that adoption wouldn't even be necessary. We pray that parents will be empowered enough to be able to continue to care for their children instead of feeling that they must resort to adoption because it is their only adoption. Children belong in their families. There are times where this is not possible, and then, that is where adoption should be an option. This is why we love organizations like AP. We are so thankful we get to be a part of this!
THE BRACELETS
Each bracelet is beautifully handcrafted IN Haiti! Our child's birth country. I cannot even begin to tell you just how beautiful they are. I love every single one of them. Each bracelet is $10. Five dollars of that will go to our adoption, and the other five dollars will go back to the Apparent Project. If you need your bracelets shipped, we are charging a flat fee of $3, no matter how many bracelets you order. If you are local to Salem, Oregon you can waive the shipping fee and just pick up your bracelet. Remember these make perfect gifts as well! Think of family members, friends, teachers...it's a gift that gives back!
Send payments via Paypal to: ourheartsinhaiti@gmail.com
*Please note if you use the option to send money to friends/family PayPal will not take a percentage of the money. In the notes section, please indicate how many bracelets you want. Feel free to mention if you are hoping for a certain color scheme (this cannot be guaranteed). Don't forget to include your mailing address!
We are about $2700 away from having enough money to send our dossier. This is the VERY LARGE stack of papers that will be sent to Haiti and is how they learn about our family and approve us and match us with our child. We are hopeful to be able to send it within the next couple weeks. But, we can't do it without the money. We need this to happen quickly so we will continue to raise every bit of money we can. Once we have our Home Study in our hands (we pray that this is early next week) we can begin to apply for grants. So much rides on this elusive Home Study!
So very excited that things are moving so quickly now! Believing that the Lord will provide the funds!
Friday, June 5, 2015
The Cost
To be honest, I have caught myself doubting. I'm watching others adoptions become fully funded all around me, while we are fundraising our hearts out and saving every penny and I feel like we still have SO far to go. But, I know He is faithful. He is asking us to work hard for a reason. He is refining us.
There was a time where we didn't have money in the bank. Not even a penny. But, He still provided. I have never had to rely on Him so much in my whole life. We knew we couldn't do it on our own. He helped us find buyers for all of our furniture (if it wasn't nailed down, we sold it). He brought us people who gave us groceries and donated gift cards. It was one of the hardest times of our lives, but was also the best. We learned to fully rely on Him and nothing else.
So, here I am again. Looking at a number that seems impossible, but choosing to believe that He will fund this adoption. It has nothing to do with me and what I do.
Right now we need $26,900 to be fully funded. We are choosing to look at each step at a time so as of right this minute, we need $3250 in order to send our dossier. We have been chipping away at that number slowly, but surely.
We have been so thankful for all who have been fundraising for us or who have purchased things from our fundraisers. We need you to know that we can't do this without YOU. Truly. Fundraising is so hard and so humbling. To be honest, I wanted to pay for this entire adoption alone. I didn't want to ask for money. But, what I've realized is that if we didn't fundraise, we wouldn't be giving all of you a chance to be a tangible part of our adoption. Not every single person is called to adopt, but we are each called to care for the orphan. So, we are thankful that God made it possible for us to open up an opportunity for others to be a part of this journey with us.
What are we doing right now? Glad you asked.
Josh is currently plugging away at multiple jobs. His main income is what we live off of. His other two jobs, real estate and coaching, go right into the adoption account. Every house sold or bought helps to fund our adoption. That's been pretty awesome. And, if you know me, you know I am the world's cheapest person. Not frugal. Cheap. If I can DIY it, I will, in order to not spend money. So, you can be assured that we are being good stewards of our money in order to save every extra penny for our adoption.
We are getting ready to do a HUGE garage sale fundraiser. We are praying that this year's is much more successful than last year.
We will be starting a NEW fundraiser very soon...so keep an eye out for it!
And, how can you help?
- If you are local, chat with Josh about your real estate needs ;)
- Buy a bracelet
- Check out our YouCaring page (you can find this on the right sidebar)
- Locals can donate items or come to our garage sale June 19-20 (more info to come)
- Check out The Rustic Orange who is donating a portion of her sales to us (her items are AMAZING)!
- Pray!
Seriously, we are so thankful for each and every one of you. As you can see, we cannot do it alone. And we have a serious need to get this money raised so we can send our dossier the second it is ready to go. We NEED this to move fast (and oh how I wish I could share more....SOON!).
We will continue to do our best to keep you updated on our process and how you can help. Love to you all!
Wednesday, June 3, 2015
Letting Go
And this has been the longest road
Just when my hallelujah was tired
And this has been the longest road
Just when my hallelujah was tired
You gave me a new song
Now I'm letting go
I'm letting go
I'm letting go
Falling into You
And I confess, I still get scared sometimes
But perfect love comes rushing in
And all the lies that screamed inside go silent
The moment You begin
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| My 30th birthday and the day we were eligible to adopt from Haiti. |
Tuesday, May 5, 2015
Choosing Joy
I so wish I could share more about that.
God asked us to step out in faith, and we did. And we had perfect peace about it. And then Satan decided to come on in and camp out in my head. Telling me lies. All day long. Add to that the fact that we cannot talk about what we are doing openly at this time (it really is for the best) and whoa. This girl, who constantly talks about being an open book, is really struggling with being in this season of quiet. I want to tell you all about it. I do. But, we know that this really is the best for the situation at hand. So, I am saying, "SORRY!" for being so vague. I really don't want to be. But I really felt like it was time to say something. Anything. Just to break the silence for a bit. I'll tell you more as soon as I can. We actually should know more this month. In the meantime, yes, we are most definitely still adopting from Haiti. None of that has changed at all. Our process just might look a bit different than we expected.
Let's move on, shall we?
Just over a week ago I was in "sunny" Southern California. I use sunny lightly because the only sun I saw was as I was heading to the airport to board my plane. Thanks for nothing weather. The reason I was there was the best part though. I got to attend my second Choose Joy event.
What is Choose Joy? It is a 2-day conference that is centered around infertility and adoption. It is soul refreshing. It is life giving. It is the one place where I can be in a room full of people I have never met and yet feel like I have known them my whole life. While typically large gatherings make my introverted self run and hide, I actually find myself so beyond comfortable and literally loving every minute. And while it was made for men and women experiencing infertility, it absolutely is designed for those that are not walking that road but just love adoption as well. We have not experienced infertility, but we know so many who have. That is such a lonely road to walk. You are literally breaking apart inside, but no one can see it. I have been so thankful that while my soul is being refreshed in terms of adoption, I am also learning how to love those that are walking the hard road of infertility. I am already so ready for next year!
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
Tears In Our Eyes...
We wanted to say a big HELLO to all of you that are stopping in from The Lettered Cottage and tell you a little more about us!
First of all, how do I even start?
We are completely humbled/blessed/undeserving by this opportunity. God is SO VERY GOOD. And Layla? She is a special treasure. She is beautiful in every way. Her heart LOVES so big and so well and we just feel so special that God laid US on HER heart. Amazing. Do you have no idea what we are talking about?
Go check out her latest post. You may just see OUR faces gracing her beautiful blog. We will be receiving a portion of the proceeds from her new t-shirt business. I have been cheering from the sidelines and praying that she would continue her t-shirt business (she did a trial run a few months ago). I LOVE watching people follow their daydreams and I am so happy that she decided to pursue hers. You must check them out, they are so beautifully designed! We are just so humbled to be a part of this.
So for those of you who don't know us, here is a little bit more about who we are.
We are Joshua, Mallory, Eden, Israel and Bella (the dog). We love Jesus. Last year we moved to a little farm town and we fell in love even more. We love adventures and spending every moment together. We desire to live a life of less stuff so we can have a life that is free to serve God more. Our journey has been full of so many lessons, in which we learned a whole lot about grace and redemption, and we are so thankful for each and every one.
Why adoption? Adoption has been on my heart since I was 4 years old. I am not even kidding. It was never a doubt that I would adopt. In fact, I never even knew I wanted biological kids. But, God knew better. When I met Josh, I immediately asked him about his desire for children. I knew adoption was too important to me and I wanted to know that if we were to be married (which I was pretty sure we were going to be on day 10) I needed a husband who shared that desire. I'll just let you in on a secret, he was definitely on board. As years have past, our hearts for adoption have only grown. We waited patiently until we were able to begin the process. This year, God clearly opened the doors up big and wide, but not where we thought. We always thought we were adopting from Africa and then BAM. He threw Haiti right in front of us. So, July 1, we started our journey!
Now, I want to give you a little background here. I have been following the Lettered Cottage since the near beginning. But, I am the worlds worst at commenting so I have just secretly been reading and loving everything Kevin and Layla post. I remember when they first announced their adoption. I was SO excited for them (I even commented! I know, right?!). And then they shared about Haiti and I was even more excited for them. I had NO idea how our stories would end up intertwining because, we were adopting from Africa remember? Once we started pursuing Haiti we looked into ALL the agencies we could find. We actually believed we settled on one. We qualified, they seemed good, so we were set to go as soon as I reached the right age (you have to be 30 to adopt from Haiti). But, it never felt right. They were a great agency, but we have a serious passion for reunifying families when possible and we didn't feel that they were as passionate about it as we were. One day I was just mindlessly clicking around the Three Angels page after Layla had posted an update. My eyes widened. Somehow I had missed how many amazing things Three Angels does. You should take a look, they work so hard to reunify families and I am so thankful for all that they do. Anyway, long story short, we realized we needed to be with an agency that worked with orphanages that LOVED their children and LOVED their birth families. And, here we are. So at peace with where God lead us. And so thankful that Kevin and Layla have openly shared their journey and that God lead us to their story to then begin our own story. He is so in the details.
So, that is us. As best as I can describe without writing a longer novel. I should have mentioned that I LOVE to write. I may love simplicity, but not with words. I like lots of words.
So, back to sitting here. Eyes filled with tears. Completely awed at the way God works. And so very thankful for this community of friends He has put in our path.
Feel free to ask questions! We love to share the beautiful journey God has given us!
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
#JourneytoSandJ
If you follow me on IG, you may have seen #journeytosandj under our adoption photos. I wanted to take a moment to talk about what it means.
A few years ago, God laid two names on our heart. We thought they were meant to be for our second born child. Then, Josh came to me one day and said that he believed our son was to be named Israel. I am EXTREMELY picky about names. We pray about them. We talk about them. We try it out with all of our names to make sure it fits. I've mentioned before, but I had to get used to the name Israel. I definitely let Josh lead on this one. He was so confident in that name, that I was not about to try to change his mind. I know if I had said, "NO WAY!" he would have been okay with that, because he's that kind of guy, but I would not do that. I love that he felt so confident in the name the Lord wanted for our son. We realized then that God was truly laying those two names on our hearts for our children who would come to us through adoption.
Selah & Judah
The names we have prayed over for many years. We choose a verse for the year for each of our children, and this year we chose one for Selah and Judah.
When we talk about our children that are in Haiti, those are the names we say.
If you ask Eden about her brother and sister, she will tell you that their names are Selah and Judah.
The funny thing is, we have no idea if we are getting a boy and a girl. We have no idea if we are even bringing home TWO kids. We are choosing to be open to 1-2 children, but we have no idea who God has chosen for our family.
And of course, since moving, we have become friends with a family that has a Judah. I always get so weird about "stealing" someone's name so there's that.
I don't know if God will bless us with a boy and a girl. I don't know if we will choose the names they were born with. But, for now, these are the names that we are praying over until we know who are children are.
I will admit, I will be so excited when we know if there will be 1 or 2 more Crain babies because then I will know if I should say child or children.
It's the little things...
Friday, July 18, 2014
Adoption Garage Sale Tips
Garage sales are no joke. It has been 3 days since we had ours and I am finally starting to feel half alive again. However, when it comes to fundraising, garage sales are AMAZING. I really think it is so worth all of the aches, pains, tears, sweat, blood....have I scared you yet?
We held our adoption garage sale the first weekend of summer. The weather ended up being decent. That was a relief considering it rained the night before and was still raining while we were trying to set-up. Satan was certainly busy that whole week. He attacked every possible aspect of our lives, BUT we knew that he wouldn't win. To us it was just affirmation that God was going to bless this sale in awesome ways. And He did.
ADVERTISE
Post about your garage sale on Craigslist. Post about it in local garage sale pages on Facebook. Post about it on your personal feed and ask people to share it. I cannot tell you how many people came because they saw a post that friends shared. If you are creative, design a flyer that catches your eye. It will make your sale unique and will draw interest. I added it into our craigslist posting and all of our Facebook posts. Be sure to highlight items that you have that you think will draw a crowd. We always find that toys, baby stuff, and tools are what people are looking for.

ASK FOR DONATIONS
We posted on Facebook about needing donated items and wow. We had so many responses. We even had to turn some down sadly due to circumstances. People want to help. Guaranteed many of your friends and family have piles that they need to get rid of and would happily give them to you instead of taking them to the local Goodwill. Do be prepared that you will likely have to pick most of it up. We were SO thankful to the people that dropped their stuff off because it was seriously exhausting driving all over 2 different cities to pick up items. However, we were more than willing to do it since it meant more stuff and more money to bring our babies home. Also, have a place to store stuff. Be ready to give up your garage for awhile. We started asking for donations over a month before the garage sale. We would then have pick-up days to grab stuff...this worked well for us since we live 30 minutes away from where we were having our sale. Promise me you won't have your sale 30 minutes away from your house. Just trust me on that.
ASK FOR HELP
This right here is where I failed in some ways. We actually had quite a few friends that live hours away that asked to help, but clearly we would not ask that of any of them! We were so thankful for their offers though! I did ask my mom and grandma to watch the kids the two days of the sale. There is no way we could have done it without babysitters. Josh also used leave time to be able to help me on Friday. However, the week of and the weeks prior, Josh was SO busy with work. He would help pick up heavy items, but other than that we did not seem him. It was terrible timing. This meant the week of the sale I was driving 30 minutes into town to bring items to my parent's house (where the sale was) and to attempt to sort it. Attempt truly is a good word. There truly was not a lot I could do with limited spaced, heavy items, and two kids to keep track of. They truly were troopers. I needed help. I should have asked. I am bad at asking for help, can you tell? See if you can find a friend that can help you with set-up. I know of one family that had a sale and they had many friends sign up to take shifts. If you have friends that offer that, don't say no! You'll need a break.
TWO DAYS
As annoying as it is, please try to make your sale two days if possible. Friday and Saturday. Apparently not all states have Friday garage sales, but ours does, and it was by far the biggest money maker. It was so busy and we made over half our amount that day. It was so annoying to set-up two days in a row, and we could hardly move that second day, but it still was worth it. Many of our friends who weren't able to come Friday were able to come out Saturday. We were so thankful for their support!
50% OFF! EVERYTHING MUST GO!
On the second day of the sale, it's time to start moving items out. You don't want to be stuck hauling everything back or storing everything. Unless you are having another sale, then by all means you can skip this tip. Around lunchtime your crowds are going to disappear. You can take this time to eat and re-organize. Then make a sign that says 50% off or something of that sort. Also, as people arrive, greet them and let them know that everything is half off. They will be more inclined to shop longer if they know they can get better deals. You can ever offer for them to fill a bag for $5. People love a good deal.
ADOPTION SIGNS
Not everyone will care that your garage sale is fundraising for an adoption. However, most will. Have a sign that makes it evident that you are fundraising for your adoption. Have information about the place you are adopting from (if you are adopting out of the country). If you know who your child is, have a picture of them! We had many people ask about our kids (which, for us, lead into deeper conversations about the process and why we don't know who are children are yet). We also put up a green poster board that said, "Adoption Fundraiser Sale!" Just to draw their attention to it as soon as they walked up. Don't be afraid to mention it while you are talking to people. I am not a salesperson AT ALL, but I do know that when I am at a garage sale I am focused on the stuff and nothing else. I would hate to miss out on a fundraiser just because no one said anything. Just for bringing that up to one of our "customers" he gave me $20 for a $5 item. Very worth the 20 minute conversation I had with him. I had a photo for this, but it seems to have disappeared from Instagram and my phone. So bummed!
HAVE DEPARTMENTS

Just like a store has departments, try to set-up "departments" for your sale items. We were limited on table space, but for the most part we had women's clothing, men's clothing, kid's clothing, housewares, kitchen, toys, electronics, and holiday. Then lots of miscellaneous stuff on a few tables. It kept it looking somewhat organized and helped people to shop easier. I had also made fun signs for each category, but sadly they never made it to the sale :(
CLOTHING
Clothes definitely need their own topic. We had tons of donations of clothes. So many that we had to wait for some to sell before putting more out. The bummer about clothes is that they can be hard to sell at a garage sale since people can't try them on. ESPECIALLY if you don't have them hanging on racks. We only had one rack and we reserved it for the larger, nice items like coats. The rest were all folded onto tables. For our sale we organized the clothing by type (shirts, pants, athletic wear, etc.). I was unable to sort them by size (there is no way that was humanly possible), but we did try to have a table for XS-XL and then a table for XLL and up. I found that people were able to locate their sizes much quicker this way. Now, our biggest tip. Pricing. Price them low. Trust me, you will make so much more if you price them low. People are willing to take a chance on clothes not fitting if they only pay a little bit. Adult clothing was $1 a piece, BUT you could fill a small grocery bag for $4. Kid's clothing was $.50 a piece. We didn't add the bag option until the end with kids clothing because they are easier to sell. Coats were $3. Shoes were $1 (I would even do $2). Accessories were $.50.
FOOD
Be prepared for what you will do about food. You will be too busy to go pick something up. We ate breakfast before the sale started. We also brought snacks and stuff for sandwiches. My mom was able to pick up meals for us which helped a ton. Otherwise, be prepared to order out...but be aware that it's a bummer if most of your money goes towards food... Crockpots may have to be your best friend.
SHOP YOUR SALE
We ended up finding things that we had been in search of that people had donated. We felt that it was totally okay to grab those items. Adoption means you aren't spending a whole lot of money so any penny you can save from free stuff feels amazing. We have been so blessed in this area lately. Josh's computer chair had broken (I mean it was BROKEN). We were freaking out over the price tags of chairs we were finding and then our amazing friends gave us one for FREE. This isn't the first time that has happened. However, don't take stuff just to take it. If you don't truly need it, put it in the sale. Give it a good home and earn more money towards your adoption.
LEMONADE STAND
For our second sale we were able to set up a table for Eden to sell lemonade, cookies, and bottled water so that she could help raise money for her brother and sister. People LOVED this. I would say, to actually make money, see if someone would be willing to donate the supplies. Ask people to donate baked goods. That will help offset the costs of getting all of the supplies to sell, that way anything your kids make is purely for your adoption fund!
SIGNS
BRIGHT signs with clear writing. Sadly, my marker was dead when I tried to make signs so they definitely were not so good. And a neighbor pulled off one of our signs so many people probably drove around aimlessly trying to find the sale. But, I knew our bright green signs were obvious and helped many to find us. Most just said, "GARAGE SALE," or "HUGE SALE," with a directional arrow. I was planning to put, "Adoption Garage Sale," but I felt like it may seem more confusing to those not around adoption. The most important tip is to keep the color consistent so people know that they are following signs to YOUR sale.
So, after all of that hard work, how did we do?
I know so many of you are curious!
After totaling everything, including someone who just handed us a donation we did...
$700 (almost to the penny)!
Josh had a goal of $600, and I had gone into it with zero expectations. We are both so happy with the outcome! I know some make thousands, but we felt like it was a great amount
One last tip...
I know I said to try to not have your sale far away from your house. BUT I will say sometimes it is necessary in order to find a better location. IF you have access to a free space...a church building perhaps? Use it!! People are more inclined to go to church sales knowing that they have more stuff. PLUS how awesome is it that you can set your stuff up and then just lock the door at night...no dragging everything back in?!
Did I miss anything? Any more tips anyone would like to add?
**Edited to add...
We actually ended up having one more garage sale at our house. First of all, it was SO much easier having a sale at our own house. Plus all of our items were already price and organized so that helped a ton. Also, it was funny to see what was popular this time around. Our first sale we sold a ton of clothes, books, and kids stuff. This time...it was all really random. Mostly home goods. I would definitely say just take ANYTHING people are willing to donate to your sale, because truly you have no idea what treasures people are looking for!
I don't have the exact amount, but it looks like we made $900 between the two sales. Our second sale did not do as well, but we only did it on Saturday and it was literally the HOTTEST day. People just weren't out. We are so happy with the money we have raised so far. We know we still have a looooong way to go, but we are so confident that God will fund what He loves!
Let me know if you have questions!
Monday, July 7, 2014
A Huge Announcement...
So...I thought about starting this post so many different ways, but I just have to blurt it out.
Today, July 7, 2014...we were officially accepted into our agency's Haiti program!!
On July 1, 2014 we had submitted our application. This comes
as a surprise to many because we were told we had to wait until August 1...and yes, we had a countdown going. Well...we have since changed agencies and this one said to start July 1. Basically, the sooner, the better. So we got to apply on a dear friends birthday and that day will forever be special to our family.
For those that have followed along with us for a long time, you know how long this has been prayed for. It started when I was 4. Josh and I have been praying about it for all 7 years of our marriage. And today, God said, "Go!"
We wondered why God kept having us wait. I mean, adoption is a command in His word. Why wouldn't He want us to adopt NOW? It's so funny thinking back to those questions...because now we can see exactly why He had us wait. If we hadn't have waited we wouldn't have ended up adopting from Haiti. If we had gone off of our timeline we wouldn't have been in a financial spot to be able to pursue this adoption. Our marriage has only strengthened in the wait. AND God brought us to the orphanage and agency that truly encompasses what we had been praying for in regards to the importance of adopting TRUE orphans. It is amazing to see how He has worked.
And one prayer request we have had that He has answered in bigger ways than we could have imagined...
COMMUNITY. We prayed for friends to come alongside us in this crazy journey. We know there is going to be a lot of hard days ahead. We NEED prayers. We NEED His people coming alongside us. So, we prayed. And the community He has brought to us is so amazing I can't even put it into words. Dear friends that have been around for years. Amazing friendships that have only just begun. And the most amazing friends that are adopting from Haiti alongside us. One family came about in the craziest way at the Choose Joy adoption conference. You should probably just go read our friends blog to learn about their adoption story and to read how God brought us together. We love them dearly.
And then. You guys. In our own teeny tiny town. God introduced us to another family that was getting ready to start their own Haiti adoption. We met through a mutual friend and we ended up getting to have a long chat about our love for Haiti and adoption and what that looks like for both of our families. It was amazing. A friendship has blossomed for sure. THEN God did something even bigger. They are adopting through the same agency and started just a week ahead of us so we get to truly walk together in this.
God is SO very good.
This process is going to be long. There are going to be tears. Frustrations. Hurt. BUT we believe our children are in Haiti and we truly believe this is where God has called us. Because our own adoption in His family was NOT easy. It wasn't pretty. But it was amazing just the same.
You guys. Thank you. Thank you for walking alongside us in this journey. That phone call was SO big and yet just one tiny part of the road ahead. My hands are still shaking from that phone call. We were just doing ordinary things like an ordinary family around our house. So fitting for us. Josh was at work, of course, but we have been sharing texts about our excitement all day long.
We are now getting ready to submit our first agency payment and stack of paperwork. This is getting so real.
Here goes nothing...
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Tuesday, March 25, 2014
The Start Of Our Adoption Journey...
I was four. Yes, four years old. Not old enough for school, but I was potty trained so there's that. I had seen the commercials on the tv talking about malnourished children in third world countries. I saw that commercial where they show children who have cleft lip/palate and I boldly announced, "Mom. I am going to adopt! Let's bring home a baby!" My mom did not quite share that sentiment. Literally, from that time I knew I would adopt. God obviously placed it on my heart...oh and you know...He commands us to look after orphans. It was a no brainer. Early on in my relationship with Josh (that's a joke guys...we met in August, started dating in October, and were engaged in December) I let him know that adoption was a non-negotiable for me. I truly believe that God wanted me to adopt and that it was so important that I believed the husband He designed for me would also have a heart for adoption. Thankfully Josh was more than on board.
Fast forward to 2010. We never knew we would get pregnant. We honestly never thought that I could. My body hates me...for reals...and yet, Eden came along anyway. And then Israel. Pregnancy was not something I had to have. In fact, honestly, while I was curious what it was like to be pregnant, I really just wanted children. It was hard for me to want to be pregnant when I knew there were MILLIONS of children without homes. Something I just can't personally handle (please note that this is just the way I felt and understand that others feel differently).
So, here we are. 2014. God THREW the doors open for our adoption. In a perfect world all of our student loans would be paid off (although I can happily announce that a few months ago we paid off all medical and credit card debt!!!!) and we would have tons in savings. While we do have money saved up for our adoption, it's not the full amount. And that is okay because we believe God has said we are to adopt now so we are trusting Him. We have been pre-approved with our agency, but we can't officially start our process until August 1 (128 days away if you were wondering).
Why August?
Well, I had planned on waiting until August to tell you WHERE we are adopting from, but since this is a huge piece in the puzzle, it's time to tell you now.
HAITI.
God literally threw it at us. Honestly, I didn't expect it. Africa has been on our hearts in a major way for so long that I had trouble understanding why ever single door to Africa closed and Haiti just kept popping up in the craziest of ways. I will share more about this once the adoption is officially underway...because there are still a few things I am working through in this.
For an adoption in Haiti, one parent must be 30 years old. This is a very new requirement and it is why Haiti was never even considered before because we didn't meet their previous requirements. I was told that we could begin the process when I am 29 years and 9 months old since our home study will not be completed until after I am 30 so we will then qualify. So for now, we wait. But you know we aren't just sitting around right? Because you know I don't know how to wait patiently.
Right now we are reading up on all things regarding international adoption. Preparing our hearts. Preparing our family. Getting our home ready. And...we have been working on opening up an online shop to begin fundraising. God knew we needed this time and although at first it was hard to think of waiting longer, it truly has been so wonderful for our family to have a date in mind, but to have this time to ready ourselves for the very exhausting journey ahead.
It is so hard to put everything that is on my heart into words. There is so much more to share. For now, let me end by saying this. While we are SO excited to grow our family, please know that there is also a really devastating part to adoption. Our future child will be ours because they lost their first family. This breaks our hearts. I have already shed so many tears on behalf of a baby I don't know yet and a family I may never meet. No matter what we will know of our child's story, their birth family will forever be a part of our family. We have been praying big prayers about how we can use our adoption to then help families to keep their children. Sadly, many families simply cannot afford to care for their babies. This is not okay. I will stop here because I can write about this forever, but please know that while we say just how excited we are to start our adoption, we also are pained for the heartbreak that had to happen as well.
How can you help? We will let you know about our shop soon. We will also have other ways you can help in the future. For now, we are having a FLASH SALE on adoption t-shirts that ends this Thursday night (March 27)!!! My friend Sarah is letting us jump on board with their t-shirt fundraiser...I am so blessed by her friendship! Shirts are $24 (shipped). Adult sizes: S-XL (XXL-XXXL are $27) and Kids XS-XL. All orders are done through PayPal. Please send a "gift" payment to sarahlongrdh@yahoo.com -- in the notes section please include shirt size, shipping address, and that it is for the Crain's adoption. Please let me know if you have any questions!!
Thank you all for your love, support, and most importantly, your prayers! We will keep you updated as our journey unfolds!
Thursday, March 10, 2011
A Call To Action
An Important Update
The Ethiopian Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MOWA) has announced a proposal to decrease the number of adoptions they will process and approve—by as much as 90%. They are planning to accomplish this decrease by limiting the number of approved cases to only 5 per working day. This change is currently set to begin on March 10, 2011.Please know that no one fully understands this proposal yet. Our staff, led by Almaz (in Ethiopia), are still sorting out what this could mean for each of the children and families that we work with. These children are their passion and they are working on the front lines in this advocacy. Also, this is not limited to AGCI. This will impact every agency and the families that each serve. This means that all agencies are working together in their advocacy making a very strong force that is working on the behalf of children and families. Currently, all agency staff are waiting for the Director of MOWA to return to Ethiopia. Once she returns they will have a chance to sit down and talk over the implications of this proposal.
To attempt to counteract this proposal, the Joint Council on International Children’s Services (JCICS) has put a “Call to Action” in place. This sort of international advocacy is what JCICS does, and they do it well.
We are strongly encouraging you to read their post below and follow the suggested steps. You can also share this with your family, friends, Facebook friends and church to do the same. It is so important that we are all united in this effort! We are all advocates in our own circles of influence—and it is good to partner with you in this!
Thank you again for all that you are doing at this time. You are all valued and important in this process of promoting and preserving the best interest of children in Ethiopia and around the world.
God Bless,
Hollen FrazierExecutive Director
To end here is a very powerful song from MercyMe, "Won't You Be My Love." Brings me to tears every time.
Friday, February 4, 2011
Blue Light Special
Just dropping in for a moment to let you know that there is a great free audio download over at christianaudio.com called Adopted for Life. I am downloading it now, so I cannot give it a review, but according to one of my go to blogs, Gus + Lula (who is the reason why I know about this freebie in the first place), it comes highly recommended. Just thought I would let my readers know since some of you have mentioned that you are in the process, or are interested in adopting. I cannot wait to get started on this one!
I'll be back later with a super special post celebrating one super special house....













